A Man's World

 A Man's World...

We have heard people say that what we are living in is a Man's World. But what exactly is this man's world? I have seen a different world for a man in these times. 

Many have felt the pressure of being successful and being a topper and if he ever lost his rank to a girl, it would be a great disappointment to a lot of people. And then he would be bombarded with taunts like "Ladki se har gaya - Yahi teri mardaangi hai kya?" (You lost to a girl. Is this your manhood?) We tried to put it out of our minds and are successful in doing it for a while but this isn't something that you forget easily. We have learned that in our society, it is expected that a guy should be at the top of his trade, should be the best and should succeed everytime at anything he does. But why? Why should a guy always be succesful? He isn't a perfect person who can be the epitome of success for this society! And God forbid if he fails in something! Failure by a guy is not acceptable in the first place. And even if he fails, he is expected to stay strong and face it with a smile. I'm sorry but the concept that a man should be strong 24x7 is f*cked up! Sorry we are not the "Men of Steel" who are beyond emotions! We cry alone so that the society does not see our tears and get a chance to judge us. We do not have the strength to face all the sorrows and obstacles in our life. The society, our family and friends are always there to worsen this condition by saying "Kya ladki jaise rota hai!" (Why do you cry like a girl!) Why? Do girls have a copyright on crying and expressing their emotions? Oh right, God made us with steel and them with flesh! We too have a heart that faces the same things as a girl does. We too face rejections, failures and heartbreaks. We too feel depressed after someone betrays us. But we are expected to stay strong in face of that! Why??? You know what the worst part is? That problems of guys are not considered problems at all! If a girl posts a sad quote, thousands will flock to her dms to ask if she is okay but if this same thing is posted by a guy, people will laugh at him and call him a sissy just for expressing his emotions. We guys lend our shoulder to a girl to cry when she is down. But when we are in a similar scenario, almost no one is there by our side to comfort and console us. 

A guy is supposed to earn more than his gf or wife as he is the "provider" of his family. He is expected to have a posh house, a car, servants and a nice fat bank balance before marriage. That's what it takes for someone to give their daughter to a guy! They expect that their daughter should be treated as a queen but they forget to treat the guy as a king. A girl without a job can easily get married but a guy without a job gets nothing! 

In a relationship, we guys are expected to make the first move. Coz that's what a Man does! What would happen if a girl proposes first? The society will look down upon your manliness. If a guy wears a pink shirt or something with floral prints, people are quick to label him as gay or feminine! Why so? Is pink colour the copyright of girls nd the LGBT community? 

We are expected not to raise our hand on a girl for defence and at the same time they expect us not to get beaten up by a girl! If a girl hits a guy, she is an empowered female and the guys is just a sissy! But if a guy hits a girl, he is a monster and she is the victim. Today, the law favours the girls in many parts of the world. In most cases, the guy is considered guilty even without a solid proof against him. He might be innocent in reality but the social media and the news channels have already portrayed him as a molester, a pervert and a monster! And even after he is proved innocent, his life never recovers. He is still seen as the monster he has been depicted as by everyone. This sometimes leaves him with no choice but to end his own life! And no one gives a f*ck about it! A guy is guilty till proved innocent and a girl is innocent till she is proven guilty. 

Inspite of that, we try to keep up a brave face in front of everyone. We hide our tears so that we can be "manly" enough. But not every wound can be seen on our body. Most of our wounds are buried deep within the caverns of our mind so that we can be a "MAN"...

Written by - Sumedhrao Malandkar

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